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Lighting a Candle?

Posted April 25th, 2010 by Lesley Hazleton

Alaska flight 8 from Seattle is in a holding pattern over Newark.  I’m in the dreaded middle seat, and about to engage in a minor act of theology.

The girl by the window — seventeen or so, dressed Seattle grunge in striped leggings, unhemmed denim skirt, and peasant blouse — sits with her legs drawn up under her like a child.  And like a child, she’s getting bored.  The article she’s been reading on and off the whole flight is practically in my lap, begging for comment.   It’s in Hebrew, and it’s about the festival of Purim.

But instead of asking the question she expects — “What language is that?” — I ask why she’s reading about Purim since it’s still months away.

“You read Hebrew?” she says.  I nod.  She examines my face for traces of Semitism.   “Are you Jewish?”  I nod again.  Reassured, she brightens up:  “Do you light Shabbos candles?”

I groan, realizing too late that what I’d taken for Seattle teenage grunge is in fact Lubavitch teenage grunge.   The followers of the Lubavitche rabbi, one of the largest Hassidic sects, are ardent proselytizers of “lost Jews,”  and her question is the standard Lubavitch test of lostness (for women, that is — for men it’s “Do you lay tefiillin?”).

“No, I don’t light candles, but let’s not do the Lubavitch thing,” I say.  No use, of course —  she’s doing it already.

“Oh but you should try.  You’d love it.  It’s such a beautiful thing to do,” with the kind of enthusiasm most girls her age save for recommending a heavenly new networking site.

I put up a hand to ward off her insistence.  “I didn’t say I didn’t know how;  I said that I don’t.”

“But why would you not?  It’s such a privilege — a very special woman’s privilege… ”

I don’t want to be privileged, I say.  Equal rights means equal obligations.  It’s a matter of both respect and self-respect.  “I cannot tell you, for instance, how deeply insulting it was to not even be counted as part of the minyan at my own mother’s funeral.”

I know this is unfair on multiple counts.  Using my dead mother, for a start, is a cheap demagogic ploy.  Even as I do it, I’m somewhat ashamed of myself, but that unyielding badgering has set me off.

Her reaction takes me by surprise, though.  As her face registers deep shock, it occurs to me that this teenager has probably never imagined that her own mother might die.

“But that’s terrible,” she says.  “That’s… awful. ”  She sits up straight as the next word comes to her:  “That’s… wrong!”   And she clearly means it.

“Yes, it is,” I reply, “but that’s orthodox Jewish law.”

She squirms in her seat, frowning as she seeks a way out.  And then:  “Maybe when the Messiah comes, he’ll guide us to a better way.”

“Maybe, but I think you should bear one more thing in mind.”

“What’s that?”

“When the messiah comes, he may be a she…”

Her eyes open wide.  Her jaw goes slack.  She blinks, shakes her head, and suddenly finds that the aerial view of northern New Jersey demands her full attention.

Have I blown her mind?  For a few moments, maybe.  Maybe even until we land and her parents meet her at the gate and take her back into the safety of the fold.   But that sweet, deeply felt honesty of “That’s wrong!” will stay with me — and maybe it will stay with her too.

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How to Be an Accidental Theologist

Posted April 17th, 2010 by Lesley Hazleton

I never meant for this to happen.  I’m a psychologist by training, a Middle East reporter by experience, an agnostic fascinated by the vast and often terrifying arena in which politics and religion intersect.   And as a result, an accidental theologist.

Perhaps the thirteen years I lived and worked in Jerusalem have a lot to do with it — a city where politics and religion are at their most incendiary.  Or my childhood as the only Jew in a Catholic convent school, which somehow left me with a deep sense of mystery but no affinity for organized religion.    Or the fact that I’ve spent the past ten years writing on the roots of conflict in the history of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam.

What this means is that my life, like my head, is full of anomalies, a fact that both bemuses and intrigues me.  It makes things interesting.  Whether as agnostic, as psychologist, or as writer, I’m always asking questions — not to find “answers,” but to see where the questions lead.  Dead ends sometimes?  That’s fine.  New directions?  Interesting.  Great insights?  Over-ambitious.  A glimpse here and there?  Perfect.

So you’ll find none of the comfort of received opinion here. No claim to truth, let alone Truth (that capital T always makes me nervous).  None of that astounding confidence (aka hubris) that cloaks ignorance and prejudice.  The aim is to question, to explore, to keep my mind — and yours — open, raise some sparks, and see what happens.

Looking forward to the conversation — Lesley

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  1. Lillu Rivlin says:
    April 25, 2010 at 9:40 pm

    Lesley, congrats. A real blog, I went on, great. I listened to Rachel Medow’s interview with Singer Sinead O’Connor. Wonderful. I’m impressed with the blog, and if I have spare time, will check it out. I bookmarked it.

  2. Nancy McClelland says:
    April 27, 2010 at 11:07 pm

    What a fantastic blog. I read the most recent entry and got hooked, going on to read them all from the start. I hope this is all in preparation for your next book? Waiting patiently… and in the meantime, damn you for being so addictive!

  3. Murat Can says:
    March 10, 2011 at 10:27 am

    The world needs you!

    • Lesley Hazleton says:
      March 10, 2011 at 10:52 am

      Thanks Murat — it needs all of us, standing up and speaking out!

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