Photo: Wissam Nasser for the New York Times
My disgust with the Israeli government is so deep that I don’t trust myself with words.
But really, two articles in today’s New York Times say it all.
In the first, foreign minister Avigdor Lieberman is quoted advocating the Israeli invasion of Gaza in order to ensure “a normal summer vacation for our kids” (the quote is way down in the 14th paragraph of the story).
In the second, we see what appears to be Lieberman’s idea of a kids’ summer vacation in Gaza: four boys, ages 9, 10, and 11, killed by Israeli bombs while playing soccer on the beach. It’s accompanied by this photo by the award-winning Tyler Hicks:
Reports from eyewitness foreign journalists here.
In Flanders Field the poppies grow
Between the crosses, row on row.
World War I began a hundred years ago today. In the next four and a half years, seven million civilians and eight and a half million soldiers were killed, and twenty million were severely wounded. And 25 years later, World War II began.
Here’s one of the northern France killing fields today:
And here’s one of the cemeteries. Most of the headstones are inscribed “A Soldier of the Great War, Known Only Unto God.” There are not enough red poppies in the world for this:
(Photos are from “A Conflict That Shaped the World” in today’s NYT.)
All of Palestinian society is a kidnapped society. Like many of the Israelis who performed “significant service” in the army, many of the readers of this column, or their children, entered the home of a Palestinian family in the middle of the night by surprise, with violence, and simply took away the father, brother or uncle, with determination and insensitivity. That is kidnapping, and it happens every day. And what about their administrative detainees?
What is all this if not one big official, evil and unjust kidnapping that we all participate in and never pay the price for? That is the fate of tens of thousands of detainees and others under arrest, who stayed, or are staying, in Israel’s prisons – quite a few of them for no good reason, falsely imprisoned on false pretexts. The vast majority of them have been exposed to the appendages of military justice, and none of us cares a whit.
All these things have turned the topic of the prisoners into the main subject in the lives of the occupied society. There is not a single household without a detainee or prisoner. So why is it so difficult to understand their joy and our pain, fears and worry notwithstanding? It was, and can still be, otherwise.
However, as long as the Israeli government shuts all the gates of freedom, flees from all real negotiations that could solve the conflict, refuses to make good-will gestures, lies and blatantly violates its own commitments – violence is all that remains for them.
Does this television sequence sound familiar?
Night time. A woman brushing her teeth in the bathroom. A dark shadow appears behind her. A gloved hand clamps over her mouth. A struggle. A knife. Cut to morning. Bloodied body on the floor. Enter detective, with dumb ‘witticism’ along the lines of “Had a hard night.” Cut to commercials.
Prime-time television makes a fortune out of women being stalked, beaten, raped, tortured, and murdered. All in high-def detail, of course. Programs such as Law and Order’s sleazy ‘Special Victims Unit’ spinoff and the even sleazier Criminal Minds are huge money-making franchises, every episode sold on first to cable and then throughout the world.
Mandy Patinkin, one of my favorite actors, walked out on Criminal Minds after its first two years, calling it a huge mistake to have ever accepted a starring role on it. “I never thought they were going to kill and rape all these women every night, every day, week after week, year after year,” he said. “It was very destructive to my soul and my personality.”
It is very destructive to all our souls and personalities.
So why don‘t all the other actors walk out? (I know — money makes their world go round). Why in fact does anyone watch these programs? (I may not really want the answer to that.) Why do advertisers pay to be in those commercial breaks? (oh yes: because people watch.) And what exactly is going on in the minds of those who write and produce and air such programs? Doesn’t anyone in television-land realize that they‘re presenting violence against women as entertainment?
Or worse still, do they realize it very well?
No, I’m not saying that such programs create rapists and murderers, or that they present rape as okay. Their ostensible focus is on the horror of rape, and at least on the surface, they seem to be raising consciousness of how brutal a violation it is.
Beneath the surface, though, there’s a deeply creepy fascination with rape, one that feels darkly voyeuristic. So what I am saying is that such programs are a very visible part of a world-wide culture that still does not take rape with full seriousness — a culture that still doesn‘t register it for what it is: not “sexual assault” nor “sex crime,” but brutality. Rape is not about sex; it’s about brutalizing women.
There has to be someone out there who is as pissed as I am at this but with far better organizing skills. Someone who can get at those who make such programs where it really hurts: not in their balls, but in their pocketbooks. Someone who can create a campaign to pressure advertisers to stop supporting programs that use violence against women as entertainment.
Imagine a boycott of the goods and services of all such advertisers. Imagine stickers pasted on toilet paper and antacids and “feminine-care” products in supermarkets saying “This product pays for rape as entertainment.” Imagine the publicity, the “bad PR,” the panic this would induce among directors of marketing. They’d cave.
What Mandy Patinkin did, we all need to do. We all need to walk out on this sleaze.
The video is chaotic. It shows a woman being stripped, tossed around, hit, kicked, held down, penetrated, beaten into unconsciousness by a mob in Cairo. It’s described in this New York Times report, which avoids any link to the video itself. In fact the original YouTube upload has been deleted. Deleting it, however, is just another way of trying to cover it up. As I write, this one is still active. And yes, you are warned, it’s brutal. As all rape is.
I know that those who read this blog, men and women alike, will be incapable of watching these couple of minutes with anything but horror. But I also know that part of the reason it went viral when first posted is that there are men out there who are turned on by it.
Just the thought of that makes me want to gag. As does the boys-will-be-boys response to it from an Egyptian TV host, who said, with a stupid giggle: “They are happy. The people are having fun.”
This isn’t “just” an Egyptian problem. Or a Nigerian or Somali or Brazilian or Turkish or Italian or Swedish or Indian or Pakistani one. My first association was with last year’s photo of an unconscious near-naked girl being lugged around by wrists and ankles, like a carcass, by high-school rapists in apple-pie Steubenville, Ohio.
This sickness infects some men, but affects every woman. Yes, all women. The Twitter hashtag #YesAllWomen took off in response to the misogynistic shooting rampage in Santa Barbara, California two weeks ago, and here’s the formidably intelligent Rebecca Solnit on what it means.
Solnit was in Seattle last week talking about her new book, Men Explain Things To Me, and when she mentioned her unease at finding herself alone on an elevator at night with a strange man, there was a lone weird laugh from a man behind me in the audience. It wasn’t clear what he found so funny. Perhaps he simply couldn’t understand this kind of unease. But every woman can. It’s the year 2014, and yet it’s still not “wise” for a woman to go down a dark street at night, or ride in an empty subway car, or walk in the woods. What was most remarkable about Wild, Cheryl Strayed’s account of hiking the Pacific Crest Trail, was not the length or the difficulty of the hike, but the fact that she was a woman walking alone. If she had been male, there would have been no book to be written.
It’s absurd that the onus is still on women to avoid being subjected to violence. One way and another, we are told to avoid this, avoid that, take care, take karate classes, be on the alert, be afraid. Don’t go out at night, say some. Stay home, lock yourselves in, adopt the behavioral equivalent of a chador. (Don’t go out at night? An equally rational ‘solution’ would instead be to tell men not to go out at night.)
But there’s an antidote. And it comes from men — men who really do respect women, and who know that to remain silent in the face of woman-hatred is only to give it free rein. As former president Jimmy Carter put it in A Call to Action, violence against women is not only a woman’s issue; it affects us all, and the only way to win this battle is to work together. I take heart from this photo that artist D.K.Pan posted on his Facebook page after the Santa Barbara massacre. Women are finally speaking out; we need more men like Jimmy Carter and D.K.Pan to speak out with us.